LOVE OR LOVE?

Love or love?
Whether it is possible to distinguish Love from love and interest from sympathy?

It is quite often possible to face the point of view that the love comes only to the mature persons having considerable life experience and the lived 20th years capable from height at least to open true love heart. Quite often people are assured that all feelings accessible to those who is more younger 18 years are frivolous hobbies, love, sympathy, but in any way love.

Relevance of such point of view is doubtful, after all the true love does not demand a passport presentation, to it it is not important, how many years to the person what estimations at it on the mathematician, how many he of books has re-read also what films looked. The love simply comes, but as it is possible to distinguish it from a substitute how to identify the present feeling and not to confuse it with fleeting hobby?

The world literature does not give the certain answer to this question. Romeo and Juliette's the most known romantic history tells about young men, almost children who have really fallen in love with each other. They could not «live long and happily», they had to become a victim of circumstances, but unless it does their love of less strong?

Skarlett O'Hara has been many long years assured that sincerely loves Eshli and only after many lived years and struggles of life has understood that she was mistaken. Kitti, one of heroines of the novel "Anna Karenina", at first Has fallen in love in Vronsky, and only having passed through tests and illness, has understood that it was hobby for an external lustre of the brilliant gentleman, instead of love.

All spectrum of feelings, from hobby to true love - great pleasure, possibility to open as the person, stimulus to learn itself, possibility to receive unique experience of rapprochement with other person. But together with pleasant emotions love, or that often accept for love, quite often leads to fatal decisions with serious consequences. For example, to leave the house and parents for the sake of darling, to trust in feelings, having cast away reason arguments, to lose friends, to lose respect of seniors, to miss time which could be spent for preparation for examinations. If circumstances develop in such a manner that to be together, someone should go on a victim, it is desirable at first to try to analyse, whether it is necessary.

The earlier the love comes, the it is more difficult to prove its validity to associates, that she will demand the big victims also that more strongly it will affect the future life. But what to do, if all forces and all a victim were vain: the love has left, feelings have cooled down, the person, earlier seeming the Universe centre, has turned to the usual biped passer-by with which even to speak not interesting?

The broken heart, the broken life, downtime, shame for enthusiasm for the person who has appeared unworthy, sneers of friends and girlfriends, a moral of seniors in style «and I warned», sensation of own lack of talent and inexperience, plaintive oaths never to open to nobody the heart …

But time heals, and soon new Love or new hobby to force heart to fight more strongly, depriving of a dream and rest. How not to make a new mistake which will force to regret for a criminal conduct? Even true love are not a guarantee of that life with darling will be happy and cloudless. The strongest sincere feelings can grow dim, regenerate in due course in friendship, attachment, tenderness, and can and turn to hatred.

The love, love, sympathy, interest are the feelings close connected among themselves. There are situations when the sympathy is born from interest, and happens that love, cooling down, leaves sympathy after itself. As a rule, force and the validity of feelings, most easier to define through any time. But, unfortunately, when the person understands that «it was simple hobby», the given knowledge for it is not so actual.

If people precisely could define that such love as it to find or as from it to get rid, fortunetellers, sorcerers and psychics would sit without work. Even recognised wise men cannot give the answer to this question. Modern psychologists sometimes suggest to use some technicians to define, how much the person feels strong feelings to object of the love.

One of such ways, it to present that for refusal will communicate with object of love the award, to steam of millions dollars is appointed. It is desirable to present it as more as possible carefully. For example, a call to a door, people who put a suitcase filled by money on a table come and speak: «It yours, under one condition: you should throw the guy. You can think some days». After that it is necessary to try to understand, whether there is a love to the Pasha (to Vase or Petja) so is expensive. If yes, most likely, the feeling is sincere also the Pasha can be proud of itself, it really love.

One more small test: it is necessary to present that favourite for ever has left. We understand usually true value of relations, when we lose them. If the thought that never more it you will see, is intolerable, most likely, it is true love.

Someone considers that the love is as a chicken pox, it is necessary to have been ill with it, that proof immunity on for the rest of the life was developed, and the earlier it will come, the easier to get rid of sincere wounds. Probably, adherents of this point of view so never in life have fallen in love with nobody.