PARTING ART

Parting art
Far not each young man (and not only the young man, but also the girl) is capable to admit fairly to the darling (or to the elect) that the Love has passed, attachment has disappeared also the best exit from a current situation is parting.

Often enough at Rupture of relations of pair behave so that at casual subsequent meetings it is awkward for looking each other in the face, remembering those errors which have been admitted by Parting. Often, trying to keep already destroyed relations, one of partners resorts to various manipulations, such as threats of attempts of suicide, blackmail, invented pregnancy and other., As a rule, it is impossible to achieve expected result, namely return of the partner and strengthening of relations by similar actions. On the contrary, the similar behaviour promotes a distance of one of partners, its exasperation and display of hostility from its party. Therefore it is necessary to Leave beautifully, in a civilised way and, the main thing, quickly, without tightening and without that the unpleasant scenario of development of relations not to cause on itself the next wave of disgust and not to lose in his eyes the advantage and pride.

If already with open years it is visible that relations of have got rid, it is necessary to cut the ends at once, without stretching pleasure. The similar behaviour can be compared with surgical practice in which if already operation on amputation is inevitable the surgeon will amputate all extremity one move, instead of cuts off every day on a slice. And in human relations if to tighten leaving it is possible to put, where bol'shij a blow to the ego, on feelings, on heart of the, let already and unloved, the partner.

If one of partners, being in relations, feels moral oppression, a dissatisfaction, an emotional asthma irrespective of the fact which methods will be used for its deduction - it all the same will leave. And as though painfully in this case was not, correct will release it, without rendering pressure upon its feelings.

To dramatize parting does not follow, these can aggravate Process of parting only. If for one of partners there is obvious an end of relations, about it it is necessary to talk and be explained easy with each other. It is not necessary to press on pity, to accuse each other in something, to shout or cry. It will be possible to have a good cry much then when these tears nobody will see, and to be uttered better with mum, the sister or the girlfriend, rather than to show any claims to the one whom they, most likely, will irritate only.

It is not necessary to ask the former beloved about possibility to remain friends. This reception operates only in films. Actually there is nothing worse, than to become the friend for this purpose whom yesterday still named favourite. All the same doveritel'nosti in relations which is necessary for concept "friendship" it will not be possible to reach the necessary degree, and to observe, how the former beloved (or a beloved) builds new relations, will be too sick. But it is necessary to talk "heart-to-heart" that does not remain any half-words, conversation should be laconic and finished, not assuming continuation as in this case very much an important point is resolute farewell.

That parting Process Has passed easier, and the depression caused by this event was not tightened for long time, it is necessary to find to itself new hobby, a hobby which will help to worry rupture. However it is not necessary to try to find calm in new relations, anything, except the next disappointment they will not bring.