HOW TO SETTLE THE CONFLICT TO THE TEACHER

How to settle the conflict to the teacher
Unfortunately, Conflicts in our world take an essential place. But, it is considered the normal phenomenon as the conflict is the development engine. The statistics asserts that the majority of conflicts in human life drops to it 12-16 years. It is quite logical, as this period is considered critical in life of the child. Stanley Holl, the American Psychologist, considered, what exactly for this period the child passes from wildness to a civilisation, therefore the teenager often angry. And because of it there are conflicts to the teacher, to parents, friends.

But it is not necessary to bring down all on the teenager and to accuse him of all mortal sins. After all very often happens that the teacher carps on kickshaws. As to arrive in a similar situation, costs vmeshivat' parents or to cope with this situation independently?

Let's look at councils of the psychologist:

- To begin with define particularly the Conflict essence. Even if the teacher regularly states you claims not on one, and for various reasons, find a conflict core. All the same it has begun because of something concrete. Knowing the reason, it is possible to find a way out easily.

- It is not necessary at once vmeshivat' parents as it can inflate the conflict even more. To make it you always will be in time, therefore try to settle it independently. But if for any reasons the teacher refuses to go with you on contact then safely address to the native.

- Try to find the compromise with the teacher. After all all of us people and at all of us are heart and weaknesses. That's it for this weakness also hook on the teacher. So, for example, if the teacher on you of harms that you in a school corridor embraced the boy try that she you together did not see. And a little bit later, approach and apologise, tell that you are tormented for a long time by conscience because of the Conflict which has inflamed that you were not right also it will not repeat any more. Believe, to concede much easier, pretends to be the little fool, than to ask for trouble, after all aggression generates aggression. And all the same you can prove nothing. The teacher always will be the rights in the opinion of the director and the collective.

- If the teacher to you regularly lowers estimations, approach to it and tell that you do not accept the given estimation that you count on bol'shij ball. Ask, that it has given you the additional task, in extreme cases ask about tutoring. After all as the practice shows, many Teachers For this reason lower estimations and it is clear, after all thanks to tutoring they receive quite good money.

- After you have settled the conflict, be convinced that it is valid so that all insults have left in the past. Do not cause castles in the air. In due course you will see, it has turned out to step at you this problem or not. If your intentions and diligence have been spent in vain, address to parents. In any cases do not go to the school psychologist with complaints to the teacher. Yes, you can will address to it for the help for the decision of this question, but remember that each word needs to be considered. The psychologist of 100 % will tell that you to it came, and in the slightest details will tell your conversation. Remember that they work together that they are on friendly terms, it is not necessary to trust the Psychologist on all hundred.

- Pay attention that that does not happen, you always should remain the person. It is not necessary to lose the person because of any quarrel, let and very much for you insulting.

Sometimes happens that the pupil is compelled to pass in other school because of the conflict to the teacher. Many uncertainty thus frightens, fear to leave friends. But it is not necessary are afraid, if you have decided to pass in other school, safely go to the planned purpose. Accept antecedents at school as a lesson, try not to repeat last errors. You necessarily will find in new school many new friends, will expand the circle of contacts, and with old friends Psychologists I advise will not be separated, after all who knows, how will turn life.