PSYCHOLOGY OF RELATIONS AFTER A BIRTH OF THE CHILD

With occurrence in your life of the kid your relations with associates - the husband, relatives, girlfriends cardinally change. Unfortunately, not always to the best.

The girlfriend

Earlier you were simply not pour water with the best girlfriend, and now she takes offence, because you do not have time for dialogue with it. It is natural that for you now on the first place - the child. And the girlfriend should with understanding to it concern. As it is periodically useful to have a rest from dialogue with each other. And as soon as at you will appear a few free time, you with pleasure devote to its meeting with it. It is possible to agree with the girlfriend about concrete time in which you can communicate to it.

Friends

Becoming mum, you have started to communicate with the same young mums with whom to you it is now more interesting, than with childless girlfriends more. However sometimes, discussing affairs and exchanging experience with them, you start to argue - what food better, what pampers, toys and etc. Especially if you and competed earlier among themselves in something now this rivalry only will amplify. To finish the arisen dispute, simply tell to the girlfriend that all different and if want can explain in detail why you arrive so, instead of differently.

Colleagues

If you have been compelled to come to work soon after a birth of the child for certain colleagues-women will condemn you for it. Yes you and, for certain, feel guilty. In such situation explain them the reason of so early exit from the decree, tell about the experiences. If you work among men to prove that you are capable to consult well with the duties, you incur a lot of work, are late after the end of the working day. And good in it it is not enough. Therefore, if you after a birth of the child remain at home, it will be better both for you, and for the kid.

If such possibility is not present, in the beginning accurately think over, what is the time you presume to be in the decree with whom will leave the child in case of appearance at work, and what is the time to work can devote.