All love the computer. Especially parents, which affairs much also do not have time for the children. And what? The child sits to itself, is quiet behind the computer, clicks a mouse, knocks on the keyboard, plays games. But in the evenings houses, instead of at entrances with suspicious friends. The motionless way of life, of course, is not useful, but it after all is better than the doubtful company from street.
You does not interest than the child is occupied from the computer all the day? Naturally it or games or the Internet. If you, as parents, do not pay to this attention, you or do not understand all gravity of a situation, or are strongly occupied and specially wave away, as though without noticing obvious, giving to more time to the important issues.
Many psychologists mark become frequent complaints in connection with infringement of behavioural and psychological functions at children. Such illness carries the name of dependence and not simply dependence, and computer dependence. It can be carried to the present frustration of mentality.
As well as any other dependence, computer dependence can arise both at children, and at adults. But a problem that adults for themselves answer, and their parents who are obliged to watch the children bear for children responsibility.
You can not notice, how your child will cross that line which separates dependence on hobby. In a case when your child finds for the computer in advance taken away time, that is spends time quantity behind the computer, and then goes to be engaged in the affairs there is no occasion to anxiety, after all the child concerns the computer, as to a usual household subject for pleasant carrying out of leisure.
But critical cases are at what the child cannot independently distract from game in a browser or strelyalku, for this purpose the foreign help is necessary to it. Because of this dependence at the child progress at school decreases and sociability decreases.
How to leave such situation? Many can think that the most easy solution of a problem will forbid the computer completely, but at such interdiction, in the answer you can mentally receive not the steady child. It can retire into himself/herself, give in completely to depression, is demonstrative stop to study and in every possible way to be protected from parents.
Parents to disaccustom the child to predilection for the computer resort to terrible abuse and interdictions, but after all the child does not understand that it is in a stage of mental frustration, therefore he perceives all interdictions negatively, hence, everyone who forbids it to use the computer, will be apprehended as badly person.
Does not exist unique, ideally suited, as much as possible effective to relieve the child of computer dependence. In the best way it will be simple to talk to it about a problem exciting you, probably, he will understand everything as since the childhood it is accustomed to trust the parents.
But, strangely enough, simple conversation will be a little. Even if the child will listen to you and will throw the computer in the absence of a constant source of pleasure and hobby it again will return to the computer. Then all your efforts will be gone in vain. Try to occupy with something of your child at leisure, for example, give it to sports section or a dancing circle. Choose that to your child to liking and in what it takes pleasure. Do not hesitate to discuss with the son or the daughter problems exciting you, give to children of more attention.
Not to struggle with dependence, it is possible to prevent it simply. Employment of the child behind the computer should pass under careful supervision of parents which will regulate pastimes of their child behind this device.
It is not necessary to put the computer in a children's room. Put it, for example, in a hall somehow not busily to watch that, as well as behind what business, the child at the computer spends time. Leave the computer in a place where there are adults more often.
Be not afraid to take an interest, what exactly occupies your child, try to prevent it the questions to save it from excessive concentration on the computer. Let know that too it is interesting to you, than it is occupied, and you want, that he has explained to you that to what and for what becomes.
Do not allow to the child to get used to any certain game, supervise and correct its pastimes behind the computer.
If time suffices your family or simply it would not be desirable it to spend for control of computer hobby of your child reconsider your sights at relations in a family and on life as a whole. After all children grow in a family where enough attention is given to the child, without problems with igromaniej, computer dependence and have no desire to leave in the virtual world from all problems. Such children grow with healthy mentality.
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