SAMOEDSTVO. WHAT FOR?

Very often we are engaged samoedstvom, coming back in the thoughts to failures, again and again we remember unpleasant situations which have once got. Back mind we scroll conversations, we think out the witty right answers on that the statement who has offended us. Wanted to tell, but have not told.

Strangely enough, situation dramatisation is characteristic for very many people. Sometimes samoedstvo become a character part. And, as we know, the consciousness defines life. Our thoughts influence those events that to us occur. Samoedstvo it is harmful.

The people who have got used unduly to worry, as a rule, are not satisfied by the life, are hypochondriac, disturbing, at them bad mood, they do not know, that want.

How to rectify situation?

The answer is simple: replace a habit to analyze and dramatize with another - more useful. Transform samoedstvo into healthy self-criticism. How it to make? Here some councils.

First of all, it is necessary to accept itself.

To accept that at you as any person, has features. In them you are absolutely not guilty, therefore try to reconsider the sight at them and to make their strength of the character.

Use a rule of "Three questions». On a sheet of paper will draw three columns, having entitled them so:

- What have I made?

- What could I make?

- What can I make tomorrow?

In the first describe that has occurred and that excites you. You test what sensations. Try to write and that causes in you these feelings.

To the second - present that situation which could be - that you would tell that have made, as have arrived both etc. Describe intonation and gestures which would be useful, in your opinion, in that situation.

In the third column write down actions, which you undertake to correct a current situation. Perhaps, you will make the decision that all have made correctly and it is not necessary to change anything, it is enough to go down stream and the situation will be resolved by itself.

Now each time you will learn to take that rational grain which is in each situation unpleasant for you. And troubles will start to seem not such scale. You will cease to worry, we will get self-trust because many situations will lose the importance.

One more step - a writing of plans.

Plan the day in the morning. And in the evening ustaivajte to itself analysis of flights. Delete those points which to you managed to be executed. Your thoughts become more constructive, you will think is more often of the future and to go in cycles in the past less. Try to think of things pleasant. About what you would like to what you aspire of what dream. Shortly your thoughts become more cheerful, and to think of the good will turn to an excellent habit.

Operate!

To ache and groan about the failures and experiences - a bad habit. As a rule, such person gives in to complexities. Give vent to the feelings - do not hide them. But the exit should be effective - find to itself has put to liking. Create. Try something interesting. Usually people sensitive have rich imagination and well developed imagination. Find of them application. And it is completely not important, as you will do it - to compose stories or to scribble on the machine theatrical suits. Favourite business will give you sensation of completeness and pleasure of life.

And the main thing. Only you solve, what to you to be - the shy contemplator or the active participant of life. Be courageous and resolute. Cast aside doubts. The world is diverse and surprising. Live with pleasure then samoedstvo you any more will not disturb.