TO LEARN NOT TO ENVY

To learn not to envy
Envy - feeling which though time has concerned each person.

Envy - a strong feeling which operates the person, at times doing its defenceless and vulnerable.

Envy generates negative emotions: disappointment and irritation.

Envious persons even outwardly differ from the others: they always frown, their cheeks become loose-hanging, and a sight stone. Probably, any normal person does not wish to see itself such from outside.

Therefore, as soon as you start to understand that envy - at once get rid of this awful feeling.

Whence envy undertakes?

Envy results from comparison. For example: parents by the car in school carry the schoolmate, and I on foot go, or: the girl-friend is already painted, and to me mum does not resolve.

You notice, what in such comparisons the envious person always puts itself on a step below another? It turns out, what if Anja (or Masha, Julja) have what is not present at you - means they better? Agree that it not so.

Envy arises from a wrong self-estimation, means, it is necessary to concern the advantages, abilities and possibilities more attentively.

Frequently, apparently, that to that we envy, has got to its owner easily and simply.

This main error of the envious person.

It is necessary to reflect: «If all so is easy - why at me it is not present?»

For certain, the honours pupil long sits at lessons, endowing walks and appointments, and the neigbour became "star" of concerts because every day is engaged in dances and a vocal.

Some consider that Envy happens different: black and white, that is bad and good. In some measure, it so. To name it more correctly: passive and active.

Someone "silently" envies, gradually kindling in itself rage which develops into hatred. It is rather dangerous to nervous system.

If to envy, so with advantage for itself.

In that case, it is necessary:

- First, to specify object of envy and to define, you really need the same or it simply whim;

- Secondly, in detail to analyse and understand that it is necessary to make for possession the same object;

- Thirdly, again to think: all as would be desirable or any more very much. Present, what you already possess it, what it gives to you?

- Fourthly, if the decision is accepted, it is necessary to start actions. However remember: for achievement of the purposes lawful means will approach only, otherwise, there will be a disappointment and dissatisfaction itself.

Most correctly to learn not to envy, and to rejoice to successes of others.

As soon as you feel that you start to envy - search for negative sides in object of envy. For example: «Mashka again in a new jacket, but even this nice veschichka has not relieved it of gloom».

In the same time try to lift the self-estimation, for example: «I fat - well also that, but kind both cheerful. And wrinkles at the fat appear later, than at the thin!»

It is clear that to operate emotions difficult, at times even is impossible, but gradually it can learn. The earlier you will master it, the it will be easier your dialogue in the future.

Envy - destiny weak. You consider yourself as the weak person? No. So let is better to you envy!

By the way, object of envy too to be unsafe.

The envious person will test in relation to you negative emotions which can damage to you. If you hear, how others whisper behind your back or catch on itself distrustful looks - most likely to you envy. Try not to communicate with such people, good this dialogue will not give anything.

Anyway, remember that all should be moderately.

Work over the lacks, always aspire to knowledge, achieve the best results in all affairs. The success generates new success and gives confidence of the forces.

And you understand that confidence - the main enemy of envy.

Good luck!